Yes, Virginia, Contestants DO Have Sex on The Bachelor

ABC's "The Bachelor" and "The Bachelorette"--what a hoot. Line a bunch of competitive exhibitionist singles up so the chosen exhibitionist can knock them out one at a time. Talk about a recipe for misery.

A few years ago, I pondered "aloud" in a article on Yahoo! if contestants had sex on the show. That would just be the coup de grace, wouldn't it?

When asked if Bachelors/Bachelorettes did the dirty host Chris Harrison said  'Well, Duhh...'.  Okay, so maybe it should be obvious. My 16 year old knew.

Evidently, each bachelor has sex with an average of three girls per season. So not everyone has sex. Whew. I feel much better now. Bachelor Bob Guiley was the reigning gigolo, racking up a five and one half sexual encounters.

Snarkiness notwithstanding, I'm worried about the emotional trauma involved. Did everyone check their brain at the door? With all those hook-ups, some contestants are bound to go home with lovely parting gifts in the form of STDS.

Then there's shame, rejection, self-doubt, hurt. Plus, who knows if the hook-ups end up together? I'd always be wondering if when he was with me, if it was better with Bachelorette #12, or 18 or #5? Then there's objectification and sexist issues.

I've heard of test-drives, but seems to me you're just getting someone else's (very) used goods. I know, few adults bring virginity to the table. But do we really want to create more opportunities for mindless sex? Hook-ups aren't as casual as people would like to believe. They leave emotional scars. Ask any therapist.

Try as we humans might to root out this monogamous habit, we just can't shake it. We just can't handle quick in and out connections (pun intended).

On-show sex pours emotional gasoline to the already-volatile Molotov cocktail that is "The Bachelor." I won't put it down to our lowering morals. Hook-ups have always happened. I will warn participants to watch out. Making a contest (and conquest) out of relationships is going to come back to bite.

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Best American History Movies to Watch for 4th of July

The Americans tend to shroud their Revolutionary War in blind patriotism. And then the real stories don't get told because they would might make us question our blind faith in American ideals. To even suggest this, gets me labeled "unAmerican." I only question mindless patriotism. "Red white and blue" fever that keeps us from acknowledging our country's flaws. This list of American history and Revolutionary War films provides a more multi-dimensional view of the United States history. Watch them for 4th of July to get a clearer historical perspective. Best American History Movies to Watch for 4th of July

Pirate-Themed Boy Birthday Party Ideas, Like Pirates of the Caribbean

We raised four kids in a mobile home. So what I don't know about minimalist living, doesn't exist. I'm the Diva of DIY. My nickname is Frau Frugal! But for all that penny-pinching, we throw awesome kids' birthday parties. Here's pirate themed boy's birthday party guide, cheap and homemade. Use free printable pirate crafts and decorations. Add a dollop of imagination and voila. Oh and no gender-stereotype intended--it could be a mixed or girl's party too. Pirate Themed Boy Birthday Party Activities, Homemade and Cheap

Funny, Poignant, Feel-Good Movies for Mother's Day

Need some great movies to enjoy with mom on Mother's Day? Maybe you've lost your mother and need some heart therapy. Whether you're a mom, grandma, adoptive mom, foster mom, surrogate mom, primary care-giver, aunt, step-mom, godmother or you were born of a mother, watch these movies. You'll laugh and cry--sometimes both at once. Enjoy! Best Adult Movies to Watch with Mom on Mother's Day

Free Printable Disney Easter Cards and Crafts

Little ones love Disney characters. So why not celebrate the joy of Easter with these free printable Disney Easter activities. Need Easter greeting cards? Here are links for ten different Disney character Easter cards. Print Winnie the Pooh, Tigger, Eyeore, Rabbit, Roo and all your friends from the Hundred Acre Woods. How about some free printable Looney Tunes Easter cards? You'll find printable Bugs Bunny, Daffy Duck, Wile E. Coyote and other character cards and clipart. I've included links for other cartoon characters, too. For Easter letters, print stationery and write an Easter message to grandma and grandpa, teachers and friends. Free Printable Disney Easter Activities 

"Blackfish" Movie of SeaWorld Killer Orca Whale Tilikum Steals Show

Sundance film "Blackfish" is stealing the show, says CNN. Blackfish exposes SeaWorld's dark past and explores the story behind Tilikum, SeaWorld's killer orca whale. Blackfish was number one in cable news and highest-rated on CNN Films. "Blackfish " shows how Tilikum was stolen from his mother by whale hunters. Several orcas were killed. He was sold to a now-defunct marine amusement park. In 1991, Tilikum killed a trainer. Later, a man snuck in to the pool at night and was found dead on Tilikum's back. That park finally closed and Tilikum was bought by SeaWorld says Higher Grounds for Animals. SeaWorld said he'd only be used for breeding.  "Blackfish" SeaWorld Killer Orca Whale Tilikum Steals Show

The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas Book and Movie Review

I don't pay much attention to movies and television. But I do look for educational and historically based films. I recently rented "The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas" (2008). It's about an unlikely friendship forged by two boys on opposite sides of a fence. A fence that contains a Nazi relocation (concentration) camp. Inside, is a Jewish boy Shmuel and outside, a German boy, Bruno. It's based on the book by the same name, by John Boyne.The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas Book and Movie Review - News - Bubblews